Kim had a high school sweetheart named Steve whom she dated for seven years (I guess Matt was in the online background through all of this). Kim purchased a house for Steve and herself and they were living in it together (still talking to Matt), but it sounds like Kim was the only one working or contributing in any way to the finances. Steve’s money all went to buy drugs. So eventually Kim ended things. Then one night Steve called Kim hysterically begging her to give him another chance, saying that if she didn’t, he would kill himself. Well, Kim hung up the phone and Steve killed himself. Really, MTV? My Monday night trash/fluff TV really had to go there? Not. Cool. And now we have to deal with this. So Kim is really messed up. And she dates really messed up guys. I say SHE’S messed up because she explains that she spent two years blaming herself for what happened with Steve. I say the guys are messed up because one killed himself, one doesn’t care that she has an e-boyfriend, and one refuses to let her see his face. This is not a group of happy stable individuals. (Thank goodness Nev stepped in.) But for the two years after the suicide, Matt talked to Kim every day and listened to all of her troubles, which included gaining 125 pounds. All right, now that everything has gotten dark and awful, let’s get this show on the road.
Nev goes back to the hotel and makes his phone call to Matt, proposing that they bring Kim to Washington to meet him. Matt, of course, opens right up to Nev and tells him how much he loves Kim, but that he doesn’t want to ruin things by meeting her in person. He says he doesn’t have a lot of confidence with women. Nev explains that Kim is on the verge of getting serious with her real-life boyfriend so this could be Matt’s last chance. Matt hems and haws, then finally agrees to meet her, asking if he can have time to clean his room first. Okay, more alarm bells. He doesn’t say “clean my apartment.” He says room.
“It’ll only take like two days cause I’m grounded.”
I get that Kim finds him sweet and amusing, but he sounds like he’s stuck at age 15, playing his Xbox in his mom’s basement and surfing the internet for people to chat with. How is this alluring? And shall we address the issue of ruining a relationship by meeting someone in person? It’s like Matt is thinking that Kim will love him as long as she doesn’t really KNOW him. Like if she knows the real him, or knows too much, she won’t love him anymore. That isn’t love. One of the greatest things about love is knowing that someone knows everything about you and still loves you. Everyone has crap. No one is perfect. Love isn’t hiding the flaws – it’s loving around and through the flaws. Which means you have to be real with each other. Which, I guess, is one of the huge topics this show is addressing. How possible IS strictly digital love? So far, it’s not.