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Sunday, November 7, 2010
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Tagged: 16, Felicia and Alex, MTV, pregnant, reality show, recap, screwed, tvgasm
If you ever get a chain letter threatening you to forward it to 7 people in 7 minutes, do it. If not, you may be forced to watch the most depressing show on TV and then write about it. I usually write as I watch but I found myself in the mighty land of cable (mom’s house) and couldn’t resist watching it first. Big mistake. Officially jumping off a bridge. Now.
This week’s mom to be is Felicia and she lives with her mother, stepfather and grandmother in Texas. That’s two teen moms in a row Texas; guess the borders aren’t the only places needing protection. She says her first priority is studying but I’m going to venture a guess that when you appear on a show entitled 16 & Pregnant, studying is not getting the attention it deserves. If it was, the show would be called 16 & Studying and no one would watch and she’d be a role model instead of an example.
To be fair, she has a lot of pressure on her. Her mom wants Felicia to graduate from high school because she’ll be the first person in the family to do so. I’m not judging but really? Now I know that not everyone completes high school but she’s the FIFTH child! That’s four that didn’t make it! (Clearly, I went to math class). She says that no one has gone to the 12th grade and that’s why she wants to do it. Felicia, dear, that’s the only reason why? Not the fact that it’ll prep you for college or a trade school. It’ll be a good example for your daughter? It will prevent you from becoming the next Amber Portwood? I’m scared to watch any further.
Felicia enjoys hanging out with friends and her boyfriend Alex who is in a dance crew. I’m guessing this will ultimately lead to a very special episode of America’s Best Dance Crew. Oooh, maybe Saltare can use the umbilical cord as a jump rope.
Favorite dance step: The Floating Mistake Baby
Felicia went to night school to keep up due to her pregnancy so that she could graduate on time. Once school is back in session, her friends can’t wait to ask how her mom found out about the baby.
She couldn’t figure out how I got pregnant. She figured these supersized braces were foolproof birth control.
OMG! LOL! We totally did too!
Felicia is happy that her friends are so understanding but wishes her mom would be more supportive of her. Quick review of the facts: knocked up at 16, lives in parent’s house with boyfriend, only clear expectation in life is to complete high school and she hasn’t been disowned yet; I’ve had bras with less support than that. What a friggin’ brat! She sits down to have a talk with her mom Reina and it is just sad. She’s crying her eyes out because her last child has possibly ruined her chance to become a high school graduate.
Sad. She won’t finish school or her eyeshadow.
Now we get to catch a glimpse of Felicia and Alex together. He begins reminiscing about how they met. I have pants older than these two and he’s talking like they’ve been together 43 years. Felicia reveals that her friend Jasmine pointed him out on myspace. Head. About. To. Explode. My-effing-space?! Any story that starts with meeting on myspace will either end with a baby or chlamydia. It’s been proven. And to that I say, Z-pack please! Then they talk about whether or not they’re ready for parenthood. Alex says that things have already changed (foreshadowing) and Felicia says that once the baby is out of her stomach, things will change. The number one sign that you are not ready to reproduce has got to be thinking that babies grow in stomachs.
Felicia is hanging out with her friends and they are surprised that she’s pregnant. She reveals that they only used condoms twice and one of her friends responds with “that’s what’s up”. I can only pray that MTV edited his comment and he didn’t really say something that dumb. Felicia is glad that she lost her virginity to Alex and if she had to have a baby with anyone, she’s glad it’s him. I hope she’s hungry because she’s about to eat those words.
Alex and Felicia do spend some time together-checking out each other’s tattoos. Felica is hiding her’s from her mother so they have to check them out in the bathroom. When you’re pregnant, aren’t tattoo revelations miniscule? Reina is not happy that the kids are in a bathroom alone and they hold the door closed so that she can not see inside. On the one hand, it’s too little too late to barge in on this hormnoal duo but it is disrespectful to do that in your parent’s house.
Felicia can’t stand how “overbearing” her mom is so she calls her sister Ciara to vent. Her sister offers her a place to stay if necessary. Felicia needs to count her lucky stars that her mother didn’t kick her out or throw her down the stairs when she heard she was pregnant. I’ve seen and heard those stories before so being expected to not bang in the bathrom isn’t exactly overbearing. Granted, we don’t see everything that happens but so far Reina seems to be a decent parent. Felicia acknowledges that it’s easier to stay home because her mother will help her. Alex doesn’t like having a curfew and feels that the living situation is not working out for him.
Reina and Tony have a sitdown with Felicia and explain that Alex has to change and start being around for her and the baby. Reina takes her daughter to most of her doctor’s appointments because Alex is a jackass. He missed his first child’s sonogram and Reina decides to confront him. Alex says that he’s going out and doesn’t have to tell her where he’s going because she’s not his mother. In all fairness, she’s not even yelling or being nasty and I don’t even think she’s being annoying. He’s just being a selfish teenage boy who has no business having a baby.
Felicia and her friends are taking a ride and they ask if she’s planning to get married. Felicia acknowledges that Alex is her money since he’s a part time barber and if things work out, they will get married. Her friend Pearl says that it’s crazy that he has that much power. If a part time barber is making enough money to keep her in a relationship then she’s got bigger problems than I thought.
The first time I watched this I felt a little bad but now I think that Felicia might be as bad as Alex. She willingly had sex without condoms and somehow thought she wouldn’t get pregnant, stays at her mom’s because she needs the help and stays with Alex because she needs the money. Ultimately they decide to move to her sister’s because Felicia wants to keep Alex around. Felicia asks Alex if he will stick around more since the mom will not be there and Alex says he just wants to get out. In other words, he wants to get away from anyone who will call him on his BS. If Felicia were older and more mature she would have recognized Alex’s non-answering answer as a warning sign that this won’t work.
Felicia and Alex do the most mature thing possible and rent a moving truck while Reina is at work overnight. I can’t help but think of Flowers in the Attic but instead of them running off to some huge estate; they’re going across town to a home that has even more wood paneling than their own (if that’s possible). Reina wasted no time in going over there.
I can’t believe you could be so ungrateful. We had to dismantle our life sized Robocop replica to give you braces.
Reina says that she was going to apologize to Alex. For what? Holding him accountable? This poor woman. Felicia soon realizes that living with her sister does not mean that Alex will be around more. He claims that he will be attached to his daughter and stay home but instead of helping her study, he takes off again and doesn’t come home all night. He spends his evening getting a tattoo and doling out these advice gems.
What Alex neglects to realize is that he doesn’t live with his girl. He lives with an entire family and he doesn’t appear to be paying any rent. What he should have said was “don’t get your teenage girlfriend pregnant if you want to have a life.” And why do I feel like from this picture alone, his friend would be a better father. Oh, who am I kidding?
The guy who raised this kid would be a better father.
Felicia tells her friend Lai that Alex used to treat her nice but since she’s gotten pregnant he doesn’t want to spend any time with her. She plans on having a talk with him that night but then the phone rings.
I believe her friend’s reaction translates to “Bitch please, you betta have yo ass home in 20 minutes!”
Lai even jumps into the conversation and tells him that he can’t go out. Felicia instead asks what time he’s coming home and he says don’t worry about it.
Should I ship this to Reina’s house or Ciara’s?
Alex spends a lot of time with his boys, Jose wants to take him out…maybe he’s not so much a jerk as he is…into guys? It’s possible. The “next” night, Alex says that he’s going to his aunt’s huse and then out with his boy who’s getting a tattoo. Felicia wanted their last weekend before the baby to be special and Alex volunteers to spend time with her next weekend. Felicia explains that the baby, his child, his creation, his Keebler elf will probably come busting out of her weeping willow next weekend. His response is “I don’t like always to be like right there. I also want to have my space.” Yes Alex, we know you want to have myspace. And facebook. And twitter. That’s where you meet young, susceptible girls and boys and draw them into your web of complex dance moves and lies. He tells her that it’s just not the same and she’s different. She starts crying and he doesn’t bother to comfort her. At least he’s consistent.
The next week, Felicia is four days past her due date and Alex actually goes to the doctor with her. Alex, ever the gentleman, tells Felicia that something is wrong with her because the baby hasn’t come out yet. The doctor plans to induce her the next night. Alex actually stays at the hospital overnight with her! I think MTV bribed him with a new Dodge like they seem to do with all of the teens on this show. As Felicia goes through labor, Alex loses any and all points he may have gained for staying overnight. He asks her stupid things like “What’s wrong? You scared?” This guy really is a moron. Then he says the single dumbest, most inconsiderate thing I’ve ever heard any guy on this show say. And I saw Ryan and Maci’s episode!
This kid makes me want to team up with Cartman’s mom and campaign to have him aborted at 216 months. Seriously, giving birth is hard enough; she doesn’t need this stress on top of it. Nine hours into labor, she begins pushing and Reina is there cheering her on and supporting her. The doctor is so cool and calm and the nurses are all really supportive and the family is…
…filming every gross second of it.
I’m all for recording the birth but did they need four different cameras? I wouldn’t want four copies of my exploding vagina scattered throughout Texas-but that’s just me and my hang ups. The baby finally comes out and I swear everytime it gets to this part I start scrunching up my face and shaking my head back and forth like I’m having flashbacks of ‘Nam. Watching childbirth always makes me reconsider my plan of joining a convent whilst having my legs permanently sewn up and broken to avoid ever going through childbirth. Oh and Reina kinda reminds me of someone.
“By the power of Grayskull, I will eat your baby!!”
Everyone admires the baby and even Alex holds her for a full 30 seconds. He takes off because “he stinks”- literally and as a human being. Oh and he never comes back. The next morning, Felicia tells her mom that she wants to move back home because she needs help. I don’t know what’s more painful, childbirth or your child acknowledging that they basically are just using you for help. Reina immediately agrees to being used for free food, shelter and babysitting. When Felicia is ready to go home, Alex pulls up in a DODGE! I knew MTV was in cahoots with him. So that makes three: Maci, Farrah (after the money scam), and now Alex all have Dodge vehicles. Coincidence? Yeah, probably. Alex slows the vehicle down to let Felicia and baby Genesis jump out and roll down the sidewalk into the house and he takes off once again.
Luckily Felicia’s mom, friends and town drunk are willing to help her out so she’s fine. Pearl, who must be a descendant of Pearl a la 227, wastes no time in marveling that Genesis came out if Felicia’s vagina. All of her friends ask about how Alex is handling the situation, where he is, if he knows he has a kid and if he plans to ever come home. Cut to Alex telling his friends that they’ll miss out on everything worth living for if they have kids too soon. Good message but quit playing Dr. Phil and start doing the stuff that you claim is so hard to do.
Back at the house, Pearl o’ Wisdom is asking about Alex’s ability to be there emotionally and Felicia acknowledges that she can’t talk to him. I’m beginning to wonder if Pearl is a plant by MTV because I don’t know any 17 year olds that are this perceptive.
“I’m actually 103 and dead but I’ve been resurrected for this very special episode of 16 & Pregnant.”
The Socrates of Lewisville, Alex, shares with his friends that things were better when his girl wasn’t pregnant. She calls him all night and he never answered. Also, how about when Felicia is shown in her room after the baby, it’s the big wood paneled dungeon but when she was pregnant her room had white walls. Did Reina give up her master bedroom for these brats? I bet she did, bless her heart. Felicia takes her friends shopping for diapers and nearly crushes the baby with a box of diapers. She’s laughing as Pearly Gates heroically catches and lifts the box away from the baby.
Now, now. Don’t go trying the old, ‘I crushed my baby so I’m suing your store for one tattoo’ scam.
She ends up buying diapers but can’t afford the $29.99 stroller. What in the world? I never had a baby but isn’t that scarily inexpensive? That’s like buying a box of condoms for 25 cents. Oh, that’s right. She never bought condoms!
Felicia and the douche have another sit down after he comes home with $80 sneakers. They set a budget of $70 for his sneakers and he rationalizes that he only spent ten extra dollars. Does this idiot not realize that Felicia could’ve gone back to the store and purchased a crib and two car seats for ten bucks?
“These are the shoes I’m going to walk all over you with.”
“But you said you were gonna walk all over me with $70 shoes.”
Felicia goes back to school and she will graduate with some extra classes since she missed so much. Alex agrees to watch the baby so she can study. Genesis starts crying and Alex tells his studying doormat to make her a bottle. Felicia isn’t even breastfeeding so she literally pours bottled water and formula into a bottle, shakes it up and gives it to him. Then he tells her to hurry up with her work because he needs to take a shower. What is it with this guy and hygiene? Does he have to wash the stench of responsibility off of him? Also, maybe Felicia should rethink her habit of working on a bed, next to a whining infant. And Genesis might be distracting too. Then King of all Jackasses does this:
This baby isn’t even two months old and he covers her in blankets and literally sticks a bottle in her mouth so HE can eat. Felicia ends up dropping her homework to feed the baby.
“What babe? Te quiero Taco Bell.”
Felicia not only dropped her homework but she also gets up in the middle of the night to feed the baby. As she feeds Genesis in bed, Alex says “Damn babe, you move too much.” Words can not describe how badly I want to hurt this guy. Alex and Felicia have another chat during the day and Alex says that he’d rather stay home with Genesis than go to work. Felicia says she’d rather work. Oooh, it’s like the infamous “I Love Lucy” episode where the girls go work in the chocolate factory and the guys did the chores. Except Ricky didn’t have his name shaved into his head. And he didn’t wear earrings. And he hadn’t knocked up Lucy and abandoned her to sing Babaloo in a tattoo shop.
Felicia says that she’s unhappy that he doesn’t help and he says “You’re not happy are you?” Even though it was a dumb question, I thought it was a sensitive thing to say considering who we’re dealing with here. Felicia says that she used to care that he wasn’t around for her but now she doesn’t; she only cares that he’s there for their daughter. He says that he doesn’t care if they’re together either and walks away. Okay, not exactly what she was trying to get across but bonus points to Felicia for not crying. We wrap up the episode with her acknowledging that life pretty much sucks and she didn’t plan for her life to end up like this. Someone hand me a tissue and a shotgun. So damn depressing. Next episode gets even better! A girl is kicked out of her parent’s house, her boyfriend is manipulative and controlling and one of their dad’s talks & looks just like Dr. Phil. Oh joy.
I’d heard talk of whether this show glamorizes teen pregnancy or not and while I don’t think it does, the girls that appear on this show say and do a lot of the same dumb things: “He’ll never leave me” “We’ve been together since the 7th grade” “We never used condoms. We didn’t think it would happen to us.” If you ever watch this on MTV.com, there’s a chat room in which some of these teens hold their “teen mom” status as a badge of honor (being a mom is awesome I’ve heard but admittedly a million times worse as a teen) and many acknowledge that it’s the hardest thing ever. However, I’ve seen ones that discuss whether MTV would come to their town to film an episode (psst, the answer is yes).That being said, I do think that there are certain teens who won’t get the ultimate message behind this show and will possibly only take away the fact that these girls are on television and that’s where they want to be too. As far as I’m concerned, they can keep these shows going forever; who isn’t at least a little curious to see how these kids turn out? So what did you think? I seriously struggled to find anything remotely humorous in this one. Is Alex officially the worst ever? And I’m sorry for the lateness; my grandma passed away and we had the services and lots of family in town 
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Every time I watch this show, I just scream “NOOOOOOOOO” in my head. No to teen pregnancy, no to staying with the douchebag that knocked them up, no to leaving school until “they have time to go back”, just NO.
But L Boogie, I love your recaps, you do a great job considering the subject matter! Keep up the great work, you’ve been making me LOL each week!
Yes, a thousand times, Yes! He is the worst. He makes Ryan look like a real keeper. I’m with you, they can keep this on forever. I’m twice their age and obviously want to shake some sense into these kids and some of the parents but I do want to see how this all turns out. Great recap (it feels wierd to compliment something that – for as fake as reality shows are – IS essentially about a sad reality and a baby starting out with less than ideal odds in life.)
BTW, doesn’t Travis of the awesome ‘Travis and Caitlyn” have a ‘new’ used Dodge also?
Thanks for taking one for the Gasmii team!
This is a hard show to write about, especially when the stories are so depressingly similiar – we’ll be together forever, a baby won’t change anything etc..
But still, you do a great job — thank you!
L Boogie – so sorry to hear about your grandma. Thank you SO much for such a wonderful recap (and it really wasn’t late) despite the sadness/stress you’ve been going through.
I literally feel like I don’t have words after this episode. The whole thing traumatized me so much I couldn’t even fall asleep after watching it. And I watched the aftershow on MTV.com and couldn’t believe that Felicia hadn’t left Alex yet. Alex is disgusting, pure and simple. Who raised that painfully dumb pig of a boy? But it’s also hard not to be angry at Felicia for staying with such an idiot, failing to protect herself (it’s almost worse that she had used a condom a couple of times since it shows she had access to them and knew how to use them), etc.
@emily— you mean Tyler? why yes I believe so. hmm he just mysteriously was able to save up for that car and get it the same weekend that he was handed his license conveniently in time for valentines day (or his bday I cant remember).
@shayhere – Tyler! Oops.
Thanks guys and thx Bionic, the writing was just making me more miserable at one point s0 I had to come back with fresh eyes. This show truly is sad. I can’t believe how horrendous Alex’s behavior was. And yes, Tyler had a Dodge too; the conspiracy continues
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So sorry to hear about your grandma L Boogie. My grandma turned 85 today, but is in the hospital because she just had a heart attack. Just the thought of losing her devastated me, I can only imagine what you’re going though. Hugs!
Alex was definitely one of those worst dads we’ve seen on the show. Propping that baby’s bottle was disgusting and dangerous. I really just can’t understand these girls. I got pregnant at 17, the father was not a teen, but had the maturity of one. Even though we had been together 2 1/2 yrs, I had no second thoughts about dumping him while pregnant. Told him to be in his daughter’s life or out. He chose out. I had already graduated HS before I got pregnant & went on to graduate college without any support from him whatsoever. I just wish these girls could understand that if the father of your child isn’t interested in being a parent, let him go. Of course it’s better to have two parents, but not when one is a deadbeat. Sorry for the rant!
First, let me extend my sympathies to you and your family.
While standing in line at the grocery store to buy groceries with a paycheck that I earned (non goverment supported)to feed my son I had at the ripe old age of 32 I had an epiphany.
Had I gotten knocked up 16 years ago by a complete douchebag with no plan and taken complete advantage of my family and the welfare system allowing everybody to take care of me and make it all better.
I too could be on all the magazine covers I now look at promising fame, fortune, and such a dynamic exciting life. I get the premise of what MTV is trying to do with this show. However when you have PEOPLE, US, and let reputable tabloids giving these teen moms such glorified exposure that is when getting pregnant seems like winning the golden ticket. If you do not think there are 15 yr old girls out there stupid enough to think that way – you are kidding yourself.
If MTV wants to send a message – make these girls / boys do it on there own 100%. No mommy’s house to live in, no government checks, then take a look at them.
Great recap. Ugh this episode was awful. I mean, usually there are hilarious moments to make fun of, but this one was just so sad. That guy reminds me of my ex husband lol. Only my ex wasn’t quite as bad, he was at least around 50% of the time. Alex is a douche. I am so sad that she is still with him, but I guess I also understand. I mean, when you have a kid and you are going to school and don’t have a job then I am sure you feel as though you have no other option but to stay with someone who can at least help out financially. It is the reason I stayed with my ex so long.
Hopefully Felicia will be able to leave soon, God knows the baby does not need someone like Alex around. Can you even imagine what he will be like when she is older? Sad.
Sorry to hear about your grandma, I hope you are doing okay, I am sending good vibes your way.
@urfavegirl: Your story is exceptional. Way to go. Way to make the best of a bad situation. I am proud of you. I think that these girls think that they are going to get their boyfriend to commit to them because they are pregnant. I wonder how many of them decide to keep their baby because they think that it is a way to hold on to their boyfriends. Yes. It is better for a child to have two parents, but not when one of them acts like the child is getting in the way of their happiness. It is going to make the child feel like they are a burden. Just get rid of the boyfriend if they want nothing to do with you or the child. These girls need a big dose of self esteem and parental guidance. Or guidance from any adult in their lives. Felicia so needs to kick Alex out of her life- he is just going to continue to fuck with her emotions and her life. And she isn’t going to have any reserves left to take care of herself or her baby.
I can’t watch this show anymore. It makes me way too depressed. I just don’t understand why some people have kids. Some people should not have kids. And it isn’t just teen moms that make me think this- I watch the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills- and I think that most of the women on that show have no business having kids because all they do is hand off their kids to the nannies to raise. LBoogie- I completely understand your reactions to this show. I would have a hard time recapping this show because it is hard to watch what the girls have to go through and imaging what is going to go happen to their kids.
It was very difficult to watch Amber- she was on the other season of this show- because it was clear that she was abusing her daughter. And she was shown hitting the father of the kid. She also picked up some guy in Walmart and let him take care of her daughter. You just know that she is going to have a string of boyfriends- coming in and out of her house, and she doesn’t care about her kid. She is just happy to have a boyfriend. She should be wary of some guy that she barely knows taking care of her child- she doesn’t know if he is going to abuse her daughter or not. It is so sad.
My friend is a single mom and she has been dating this guy for over year, and she still hasn’t let him be alone with her kid. She wants to make sure that this is someone that she wants to be with for a long time before she lets him spend time with her child. She doesn’t want her child to get attached to someone that may not be around and she doesn’t want her child to experience a revolving door of men, so she is very careful about introducing any guy that she has dated to her child. She actually stopped dating for awhile because she felt her daughter was too young to understand what was going on. The girls on this show either stay with an asshole guy or immediately start dating without any thought of what it is going to do to their kids. Most teenagers are too young and too selfish to understand that they are going to have sacrifice some of their desires and wants for their kid. The kid didn’t ask to be born.
I have said it before- I know that this show highlights the hard parts of raising a child, but the fact remains that these girls are on a television. Girls that a struggling with being pregnant or are looking for attention, who aren’t secure in themselves- are going to watch this show and see it as an answer to all their problems. I don’t think that this show is going to encourage a girl to go out and get pregnant, but I think that it is contributing to the problem of teen pregnancy.
It isn’t doing anything to dissuade girls from getting pregnant and it isn’t contributing a solution to the problem of teen pregnancy. Pregnant teens should not be given a television show because it makes it seem like teen pregnancy is normal and acceptable, and it isn’t. It shouldn’t be accepted, made to seem normal and it does seem glamourous because the girls get to be on tv and on the covers of magazines. There aren’t too many stories like urfavegirl- she is an exception and not the rule.
Also it totally made me cry to see Felicia mixing the bottle of formula. My sister’s kid had to be on formula for a couple of weeks because my sister had to take some medication, and when I made his bottle I heated the formula up. She couldn’t even by bothered to do that. And then when she watched Alex just lay the baby down and prop the bottle up. She was going to let her kid just lay there if the bottle hadn’t fallen down. Way to neglect the baby. She should have told Alex not to do that. Alex thinks it is easy to stay home taking care of a kid because he isn’t going to interact with the baby.
@bridget I’m so glad you said it. This stuff should NOT be on TV. Teenage pregnancy is not ok and should not be made to be acceptable. I don’t want to live in a world where it’s just ‘ok, it happens’ that teens get pregnant. It should not be the norm.
@Bridget I was thinking the same thing about the formula – I don’t have kids of my own yet so I didn’t know if maybe there were new types of formulas you don’t have to heat – but the first thing that popped into my head was don’t you have to warm the formula up? Seriously, it was heart-wrenching, the whole thing. I might have to give this show up because it affects me so much.
Sorry to hear about your grandmother.
This episode really got me upset… and I watched the aftershow where she said MTV was the one that told her to confront Alex. So she didn’t even want to do that. This dude is a loser.
@Bridget, you don’t HAVE to heat up the formula. Some mothers serve it room temperature in case they’re out one day and don’t have access to something that will heat it up. When my son was on formula, I premade it so I heated it up because I didn’t want to give it to him chilled.
My son preferred it room temperature. He didn’t really like the warm stuff. We tried to heat it up but he refused to eat it. So, we heated it for 10 seconds and that was it.
This show really depresses me. I was 22 when I had my son and I felt it was too young. These girls break my heart because most of them don’t work and some are poor. It kills me.
OH, and L, I am so sorry about your grandma. You are in my thoughts.
Overshare Ahead:
With both my pregnancies I went through these weird morbid phases where I obsessed about every bad thing that can happen to a kid from womb on out…birth defects, still births, kidnappings, molestation etc.
Anyway…during my trips down the wikipedia black holes…my sad consolation was that in 99% of those horrible headliner stories the child was put in harm’s way through the direct result of some painfully horrible bad judgment on the mother’s part. And, yes, always the mother. Sometimes the dad was also involved but you could usually trace it back to the mom-particularly because biological fathers were typically long gone. (ex. Mom went out drinking for the night with a boyfriend and asked the new guy staying in the mobile home next door to keep an eye out for her sleeping daughter).
Which is not to say that bad things don’t happen even when you do things right. But a HUGE amount of the danger and bad things that can and do happen to children can be avoided by moms putting their kids first.
Bottom line, moms are the front line of defense for their kids…from who you choose to make a baby with to knowing when to call it quits and leave a bad situation. It’s sad that these girls don’t appreciate how important they are.
I am 30 and I am so GLAD I do not have children. Really, it is God’s gift to you all.
I have a baby and feed her formula sometimes…and I’m 30 by the way. Our pediatrician recommended that we NOT heat up the formula and see if our daughter would take it at room temp. She liked it just fine and it’s certainly not harming her.
@ninad I also never warmed formula unless the filtered water had been in fridge. And breast milk out of the fridge I would warm to about room temp. It made travel a lot easier…I’d mix formula with bottled water on the spot, always fresh and no warming of any bacteria that may have developed in premixed formula.
I also kept my bottled water room temp so I could mix the formula with ease during those AM feedings. I breastfed too, and when I would pump and heat the refridgerated milk, I never made it too warm. As long as it’s not cool..it’s perfectly fine.
I was so scared to see the baby lying on it’s back with a bottle propped up..doesn’t these kids know that the fastest way for a baby to choke! If the baby stops sucking, the milk would continue to drip and pool in the throat where it will eventually be inhaled! I feel so nervous for these babies with such lazy, ‘green’ parents!
Thanks for your sympathies, thoughts, prayers and vibes
; it’s appreciated. Thanks for the tips on formula too. If I’m ever drunk and am guaranteed to get on TV for popping out a baby, I’ll at least know how to feed it! And please don’t give up on this show!! I can’t go down this path alone.
i totaly agree with the makes ryan look like a real dad there is no wa he could ever be a dad!!!!
Sorry about your Grams L Boogie.
I would have to say that Alex is probably the worst dad ever on this show. And I have watched since the first episode. He didn’t even try to act like he cared.
I will probably watch this show until they take it off the air. I don’t know why I am obsessed with this show. Maybe because it helps me remember why I don’t have kids.
I’m with you Boogie about experiencing child birth. I also watch “I didn’t know I was pregnant” and their description of the pain in EVERY episode is “I thought I was going to die”.
felicia is not spoiled she is 16 its not like by 16 you are supposed to be out of your parents house and also just because they met on my space doesent mean that bad things will happen they were both pretty stressed out with her mom also felicia is pretty nice they are not ready for parent hood because they are 16 and the directers ask them this stuff do you think it just comes up and she didnt really mean stomach and it doesent really matter and they dont fight non stop so just leave them alone
This episode was just so, so, sad. The sperm donor wins the king D-Bag award by far. I just want to take those overpriced sneakers and shove them up his @#@!!