Bethenny Ever After: Tyrannical Empire

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   Heather
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 3:35 pm

   I did see in the rolling credits that Bethenny is now an executive producer on the show, so that may be why she’s all for having Bryn filmed but not paparazzi-d. Without pictures in the magazines, she’s able to control the supply of Bryn-ness into reality TV (which probably adds to the number of viewers).

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   jersey4041
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 4:31 pm

   I still enjoy watching her. I have no problem with that. She’s witty enough to keep me tuning in. BUT I do think she’s taking herself a little seriously. She has this whole gig because she was the most likable person on the Real Housewives of New York, not because she’s the most likable person in the universe. She should slow down a bit. I thought it was rude that she didn’t even stand up when Nick was leaving. Who just sits there while someone lets themself out?? It was uncomfortable for me to watch.
   I also think that if you hang out with Bethenny, you work for her. She made him run and get them drinks? He was pushing her baby stroller?

   I hope she gets it together or people will end up watching just to talk about what a bitch she is…like watching Bad Girls Club to talk about how they’re messes.

   I still love Jason.

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   mulecitybabe
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 5:37 pm

   I remember when Bethenny was interviewing for the personal assistant position back on Bethenny Getting Married? or Jason Getting Fucked for Life? or whatever it was called. I thought then that she hired the wrong person for the wrong reasons. But that was her mistake, not his and she shouldn’t have fired him like she did. I hope Jason took note of this decides whether or not to work for that hypercritical whack job he married.

   Not that I even watched the show, because I can’t stand her anymore. But your recap sounded just like her, so I feel comfortable commenting. Thanks for taking one for the team every week. I hope they’re giving you free liquor there at tvgasm.

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   leenie
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 6:08 pm

   Don’t people withAsperger’s tend to set “rules” for themselves, maybe something Nick did as a kid? Then again, I learned everything on last week’s episode of Parenthood, so what do I know?

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   MaryFrances
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 6:18 pm

   I don’t think Jason and Bethenny make a good couple. They don’t know anything about each other. They have so many issues that should have been discussed before they got married. Bethenny certainly gives Jason the opportunities for him to remind her how crazy she is. She said Skinny Girl was their business. I hope not. I hope she got a good prenup. They can’t have a simple dinner without her falling apart and his being self righteous. They can’t work together. She is so comfortable with the people she considereds her family. But why not Jason’s parents? I’m giving this marriage maybe another year.

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   NinaD
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 6:30 pm

   Bethenny tries way to hard to be funny

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   NinaD
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 6:30 pm

   *too

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   Tmurda
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 6:41 pm

   This episode just confused me all around. I’m actually a fan of bethenney, and less irritated with her than many of you, but ummmmm…..wtf was that exactly? Reguarding Nick, I think the reason she’s trying to have him do the blog instead of simply befriending him is because A) she feels bad for not hiring him as an employee as opposed to max, and B) I believe she intends for her request of him to write the blog as a way to somehow boost his confidence. HOWEVER!!! She’s failing miserably because she really needs to tone down her harshness and bluntness around nick, because he clearly doesn’t get it, and I can tell it freaks him out. I don’t mean he’s dumb, he just seems taken aback, and she seems to be having the reverse affect on his social awkwardness. I think her heart is in the right place, but she’s coming off like an asshole. I couldn’t care less why bethenney fired max, cause he sucks. I think she was looking down and fucking with her phone cause she actually felt a little bad, and AGAIN she looked like an asshole, reguardless, cause of her delivery. And Julie was there cause she has been promoted to a higher position, AND she was the one who had to babysit his dumb-ass all the time, so she deserved to witness him getting canned. My point is, Bethenney would not offend ME, personally in any way, but she REALLY needs to adjust her approach and aggressivness accordingly. She seems to have arrived at a demeanor of entitlement reguarding her over-the-top personality, and expects all other people to be cool with it. She IS losing a ton of fans.

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   ohralphie
   Posted March 17, 2011 at 6:42 pm

   I get that Bethanny is not used to family relationships or any healthy relationship for that matter. But she is taking the stance that everyone needs to accomadate her ‘crazy’ (read selfish behavior) because she had a difficult childhood. I’m sorry, but eventually that card gets played out and she needs to grow or go. And leave the baby behind unless she wants to raise another neurotic.

   It is a shame, she did show tremondous growth on the Housewife series. At anyrate, great recap Honeygansta!! Loved reading it.

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    Robinez
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 7:37 pm

    THanks for the recap HG. Enjoyed it.

    About Nick..He has posted on a few foodie sites that I frequent but his blog is about 30% food. The rest is mostly about film. I haven’t been able to find a blog with him in regards to Bethany. Maybe it went to the wayside. I guess we won’t see how it turns out until they show it on the show. I loved it when he mentioned the Big Gay Ice Cream truck and Bethany asked if there was a big gay there? He responded “No, just a regular gay”..lol

    In her blog this week she spoke in past tense about Gina. So, I am wondering where that goes too. Of course we don’t see everything but I am truly concerned about Bryn. They said that she slept from 8am to 8pm. She certainly needs a bottle in between those hrs and from the looks of lazy G I can imagine her just propping a bottle up in the crib and laying back down in her bed. Also, Bethany said she loves to be herself with cookie and Bryn and not talking…

    I say this because Bryn looks so uninvolved to me. Even when Jason was making fun of Max, baby talking and trying to make her laugh she didn’t even laugh. They put her in a bouncy thing a goo goo’ed and she didn’t break face. Also, it seems like not only does she sleep from 8 til 8, Bethany is always pissed when Bryn is woken up in the middle of the day.. Babies need to be talked to. They don’t need quiet time in the middle of the day when they are awake. They need to interact. They need to laugh and have fun Bethany! Just because Bethany want’s quiet time in the middle of the day doesn’t mean that Bryn wants it or needs it for her developement.

    Oh, and I think the reason that she didn’t want the Pap getting pictures of her at that moment in time was because she didn’t hve make-up on. She didn’t mind it when she was at the food crawl. There were pics on a site of her there.

    I think I am getting bummed with her…

    TC, Robin

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    Robinez
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 7:46 pm

    Just as an aside…My post was because that baby doesn’t look like she gets much interaction and i have never seen her laugh. So puuhhleese..don’t jump my ass because your kid does ..blah blah blah..It is called an opinion.

    Just nipping it in the bud. I don’t want to go there again.

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    sarcasatire
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 8:12 pm

    Bryn looks like a plastic baby doll, cute but with a frozen expression. You hardly see her move around. I loved watching her at the grandparents because she got floor time and was playing on her mat. That said, many babies sleep 12 hrs a night without a bottle, (so I’ve heard, mine is 14 months and still requires a feeding 6 hrs in), so perhaps Bryn can, too..but if she does 12 hrs during the day, how many hours does she sleep at night? A baby her age shouldn’t sleep more than 15-16 hrs a day. Is Gina up all night rocking her? Maybe because she was a preemie, her development is a little delayed or she requires a bit more rest. I dunno. I know, as a mostly-at-home mom, I do cherish those hours my little one naps, but if she napped for longer than 2.5 hrs, I’d be right there holding a mirror under her nose!

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    sarcasatire
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 8:15 pm

    You know, someone mentioned that watching Bethanny on WWHL (not the Mardi Gras edition, the one prior) it appeared to be a bit of tension between Andy and bethanny. Perhaps, this is one of those instances where you bite the hand that feeds you and He who makes you will break you. BAM! Villain edit.

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    2Hyper
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 8:20 pm

    Robin,
    Although you followed up your statements with your disclaimer, those statements cannot be left alone. I dont know if you have children but FYI….it is totally normal for a child Bryn’s age to sleep thru the night without a bottle, and every child is not a barrel of laughs and giggles; it doesn’t mean its an unhappy child. I will spare you multiple examples since you won’t care but I think its very dangerous to make such statements about a child or insinuate a mothers care for her child (whether its with a nanny) without true knowledge about baby development. Bethanney has many things to criticize her about but its just silly to look for obscure things to find fault with. There is too much fodder there already. *steps off my soapbox*

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    Robinez
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 8:37 pm

    Every baby is different. I just get the feeling that Brynn doesn’t get much “play time”. I also think that Gina is not making any points when it comes to being a baby nurse. She rolls out of bed when the baby wakes up. Also, editing and all that, but who in the heck sleeps next to a baby that is awake? You could at least TALK TO HER!and allows their boss to see that? Let alone the camera’s. I also truly think that Gina may be an OK baby nurse, but it is apparent that her charge doesn’t get much in the way of interaction as they get older. Or maybe Gina’s mind was on her divorce. Who know’s.

    TC, Robin

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    sarcasatire
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 9:02 pm

    I didn’t know Gina was meant to stay on so long. Bethany’s friend who introduced them said that Gina worked for her for 2 weeks after the baby was born to help the mom with some of the feeds and to show her how to properly care for a newborn. A child that is 6 months and can sleep 12 hrs doesn’t need a baby nurse, it needs a nanny.

    I didn’t see the scene (haven’t much watched the show) but if the baby is in the crib, and not crying, it’s fine for the caretaker to sleep. Babies need to self-soothe and be able to entertain themselves on their own, too. I would love to have a mellow baby who could just lie there, calm and cool, while I caught a few zzz’s. The times mine sleeps in the crib, the minute her eyes fly open, she wants out!

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    Robinez
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 9:11 pm

    Geesh.. Some baby’s sleep for 12 hrs a night and then all of the sudden they change their mind! THATS child developement.

    I made it a point to repeat what my main concern was. It wasn’t feeding, sleep, etc. I also know that kids aren’t all laugh’s and giggles. Sometime’s they cry too!

    BTW, While you are not “letting my statement’s alone”, would you mind not assuming what I do or do not care about? I will appreciate it.

    TC, Robin

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    Robinez
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 9:29 pm

    That’s not the point Sarcas. Gina is being paid by Bethany to take care of her baby. Not to lay in bed when Bryn is awake. She should be up and dressed and alert. She isn’t getting paid to lay beside a crib, asleep.

    TC, Robin

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    sarcasatire
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    True. But were they filming at night or during the day? And was it the baby’s nap time? Because I nap when my baby naps. (Mom 101, the best advice I was ever given.)
    Maybe Gina does the same as she is probably responsible for the AM feedings as well. Perhaps, it was ‘their’ nap time and the baby woke up first and was relaxed, so Gina didn’t know Bryn was awake until Bryn (eventually) made a sound or started fussing. Not saying this is the case, but it is very possible.
    My baby takes a 1.5 -2 hr nap in the afternoons and sometimes, I sleep with her, and she *always* wakes up first. The difference is, she naps in my bed, so when she wakes up, she starts moving around, and it wakes me up immediately.

    Perhaps, if she napped in her crib, she may wake up and just chill out, post-nap, and allow me a few extra minutes of sleep before asking to be picked up. Ah, I should be so lucky.. lol

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    Robinez
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 10:18 pm

    OK. Whatever. My point still is, you don’t have to be a member of the Duggar family to see that Bryn is a stoic baby and her Baby Nurse is lazy.

    TC, Robin

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    Robinez
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 10:22 pm

    It was 8 am and Bethany was getting the baby ready to go for a walk. Lazy G was in bed. 8 am.

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    MissKittyRN
    Posted March 17, 2011 at 11:55 pm

    Just to put the lazy nurse thing to rest…it’s not just lazy it’s inappropriate as a paid caretaker! As an RN I was shocked that she was sleeping that late, regardless of what the infant was doing. if she’s awake and playing, fine do her laundry or pick up her toys. I do pediatric homecare and if I got caught sleeping on the job I would be fired. It’s one thing for mom to nap while baby does, a whole other thing when it’s a paid employee.
    Bryn is a preemie, she is going to be as far behind as she was early, so even though she is technically 5 months she will behave more in the 3-4 month range. Also I would imagine it’s incredibly overstimulating to be around the cameras and have a mom that is so high strung. Infants cope by shutting down and that’s exactly what she does.

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    sarcasatire
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 12:19 am

    Yea, we don’t want her getting up at 8AM lest someone may think her a princess. (see what I did there? )

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    Jazzy
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 6:00 am

    I agree that Gina seems lazy. She’s a “baby nurse” which usually means she just takes care of newborns for the first few months. I don’t think taking care of an older baby is her thing. What Bryn could use soon is a cute, bubbly au pair who will like to chatter with her!

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    kdognatl
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 6:07 am

    Great recap HG. I still like B, but as I previously stated, do get how she comes off as grating. I also noticed in this episode and thought Bryn to be stoic and too wondered about her development. I also did not like how she did Max even though I did think he sucked. But did agree with previous commenters about her behavior and how it might be confusing to her employees. I hope Jason does not work “with” her because I do think that will help speed along the demise of their relationship. But who knows, could bring them closer together. Only time will tell. Love your recaps HG!

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    mulecitybabe
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 6:11 am

    I think it’s telling that Bethenny fired the assistant that wasn’t performing his duties (taking care of HER), but doesn’t say anything to the person who isn’t properly caring for her BABY. In fact, Bethenny basically made her family.

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    Classy Drunk
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 6:34 am

    If a baby sleeps for 12 hours then there’s no reason for the nurse to not be up at 8 am.

    But I do agree with the commenter that said that since Gina is a baby nurse she is used to newborns and not babies that are Bryn’s age.

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    NotWithoutMyTV
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 6:57 am

    I think you’re all terrible mothers, and that your kids are lucky to be alive. I admit that I don’t know you. I’m just expressing an opinion. So don’t jump all over me. I’m just questioning your core abilities to keep a child alive. No harm meant. Discussion over, for my part. So don’t attack me.

    Is Bethanny really crazy enough to think Jason SHOULD be a part of Skinny Girl? Or do you think that’s just some Bravo Instant Drama ( just add plot line and some tears)? Because that idea is a gigantic divorce accelerator, that’s what that is. I think we can all agree that her business doesn’t automatically have to be his thing, they couldn’t work together, and it’s a TERRIBLE idea for their marriage. He’d become another friendployee, you can see it already:

    “Jason! [claps hands twice] Find someone to fire! Improve my distribution! Report to me at dinner.”

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    thiajok
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 8:32 am

    I’m not a terrible mother, I’m a terrible motherfucker. Oh wait, that might not be what I meant, either.

    I think Bethenney is complicated in her aggressiveness/submissiveness. I have the same problem that I observe in her interactions with people–she lights into them over the least little thing but lets the big things slide because she perceives herself to be too bitchy out of the gate and so tries to tone it down. The problem is, she’s picking her battles unwisely. There’s a time to be a bitch and a time to let things slide.

    I still like her and I think I’d have a hoot hanging out with her, but I don’t think I’d want to be one of her satellites.

    And no, letting Gina get away with sleeping in–just no. This is an example of what I was explaining before. Bethenney will ignore Gina sleeping in, but will end up firing her later because she doesn’t smile when Bryn smiles. Why? Because she let the big battle go but the issue still rumbling around in her subconscious all the time.

    This is honestly what confuses my family so much about me–I seem to lose it over someone leaving crumbs in the butter, but the real problem is that this person hasn’t been doing a necessary chore for weeks or hasn’t handled a major situation properly. I let it slide and then one day, BOOM!, I’m having a bitch fit over bread crumbs in the butter.

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    Where's My Coffee?
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 9:54 am

    If Bryn sleeps 12 hours, that leaves 12 hours for the baby nurse minus naptime. Who knows what she’s doing after the baby goes to sleep. Maybe she’s washing bottles, getting diapers ready … etc. The point is Bethenny doesn’t mind the nurse sleeping in, because she gets her quiet morning walks in with Bryn. It works for her, so I don’t see the problem.

    On her show last year, Bethenny was always trying to get Max to get phone numbers at her events, so it shouldn’t be so shocking that he asked for a rubber. Big deal. However, I groaned when she hired him, because it was obvious he was just giving canned answers in his interviews. I thought Bethenny was smarter than that.

    I don’t think anyone can really tell how developed a baby is from 3 total minutes of airtime.

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    sheesh
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 10:05 am

    Bethenny needs to hire Slade Smiley. It’s not like he’s doing much besides servicing Gretchen.
    Bethenny would get back all her fans after she verbally flays his ass weekly.
    Please please please!
    That would be awesome television.

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    NotWithoutMyTV
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 10:08 am

    I can. That baby is already damaged goods.

    In 15 years, that kid’s gonna be sitting next to 3/4 of the Gosselin kids on Celebrity Rehab.

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    notwithoutmytv
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 5:09 pm

    What would help Bethanny chill out?

    As Woody Allen once said, “There’s nothing wrong with you that Prozac and a polo mallet wouldn’t cure.”

    Does anybody else think that all these reality show bitches start being the same kind of bitch, because that’s the kind of bitch that’s in demand on reality TV? Rachel Zoe, Bethanny, all the Housewives… don’t they all kind of act the same way? Maybe it’s me…

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    thiajok
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 8:02 pm

    I think it’s mostly you.

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    jersey4041
    Posted March 18, 2011 at 9:26 pm

    @thiajok I have the same problem. I get so riled up over the simplest things. While I may not say anything, I vent my ass off to my boyfriend and friends..but when something big happens I sort of just let it go. Sometimes I think it’s because I’m afraid of where I’ll go if I let it out!!

    As for Bethenny’s nanny..eh, I really think she doesn’t care. I think she wants people to work for her. She probably intended to get rid of Gina but realized that she can’t handle it all on her own. PLUS as a paid employee Gina has to do what Bethenny says. This is why I think she needs to be more accepting of Jason’s family.

    When they were out for drinks and talking about his family she almost seemed ANGRY and HURT that he wants his parents to be involved as much as they want to. It was so bizarre to me. She wants ALL of Jason’s attention. She doesn’t want to be part of his family. I’m telling you, I know all to well how this feels because I catch myself doing this with my bf. I get so frustrated when we have to go to his families house and then once I’m there I’m really very happy.

    Bethenny wants to be Bethenny and she realizes she has to be sort of a good girl and be respectful to his parents. That’s too hard for her so she’d just rather not go. It’s her world and everyone is just living in it so taking a step outside into someone else’s world is a struggle for her. As I said before, any other new mom would be lucky to have parents as involved as Jason’s.

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    Jazzy
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 9:21 am

    My theory on Bethenny is that is so scarred from her childhood that she has to be in control of everyone around her. I think a child that was exposed to domestic violence must feel so helpless, that now she’s only comfortable if she’s in control. That’s why she turns everyone into an employee, and why she’s trying to do it to Jason. She’s going crazy b/c right now he is equal to her and she’s trying to make him into an underling so she doesn’t have to deal with his crazy demands that his parents be a part of her life. She needs to get over that and learn how to deal with people one adult to another and let go of some of that need for control.

    If she had a half decent therapist, that’s what he’d tell her.

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    thiajok
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 9:27 am

    Oh yeah, Jason being involved in the business will definitely not work out. It’s not even fair of her to ask him–he has his own career. Plus, I think she’s setting herself and him up to fail by asking him to be involved. When he doesn’t do it the way she wants, she’ll resent him and he, in turn, will resent her for getting him involved. I agree with Jazzy that this is Beth’s way of controlling things–I come from the same background and it’s pretty much what I do if I don’t check myself. It’s not always easy to do, so I have to monitor myself constantly and even then I don’t always succeed.

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    2Hyper
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 9:34 am

    I dont think Bethanney is being unreasonable about the parents issue. Seeing them every 2-3 weeks for a couple days is a bit much. As much as I love my mom and inlaws, I would get sick of it too. With work, a husband and two kids under two, I am exhausted every day. I look forward to weekends when I can relax, not on the road visiting. I see my mother once a week and I find it stressful. Not the seing part but the whole packing the kids up and entertaining for an entire day when all I want to do is sleep but I do it to keep the peace.

    They are a new family and they need to establish their own traditions and norms without having to see his parents all the time. Now of course in typical Bethanney fashion, she is not communicating her point well so it makes her look like a bitch. As with many things as a married couple, neither person is completely wrong but someone has to be the one to compromise. As I have learned in marriage, sometimes its just not fair and sometimes neither one of us get what we want…

    Now in regards to Jason working for her, thats the definition of a BAD IDEA!!! Astute observation about her not knowing how to be friends with someone until they work for her. I only saw the second season of RHONY and never saw Betthany geting married so I never noticed that.

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    2Hyper
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 9:42 am

    *Back on my soapbox* I dont understand where all this commentary about Brynn not getting enough attention, playtime is coming from. I think she’s only been on camera a total of 15 mins since the series started. Babies tend to get introverted when they are in front of strangers and outside of their confort zone. Both my sons are sad sacks once they leave the house but a barrel of laughs at home. People always comment on how quiet and somber they are when we are out. They are home all day and do not interact with many people, outside of family, on a regular basis so they are usually overwhelmed. My point being..babies are so temperamental and sporadic in their behavior in that first year, so its hard to make a judgement on her well being. The fact that she is not constantly crying is more of an indicator of her happiness; not the fact that she is somber and crying. Also we dont knwo when those scenes where being filmed, after a nap, after she ate, etc.. trust me it all makes a difference in their behavior.

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    2Hyper
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 9:44 am

    I meant ‘somber and quiet’ not ‘somber and crying’.. wher the heck is the edit button.

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    jersey4041
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 10:47 am

    I think that’s a great point about Jason working for…er, I mean ‘with’ her. Everything has to be about Bethenny. She can’t talk about anyone but herself, her neurosis, her world, her day, her product..etc. She needs Jason to work with her because she doesn’t care about paying attention to his day. There is no pain but Bethenny’s pain so if Jason has a bad day and she has a bad day–she’ll have no idea what to do because it’s supposed to be all about her. When she says she’s a difficult person doesn’t mean it’s ok. I hate that more than anything, just because you recognize something doesn’t mean it’s ok to continue in that manner.

    I hate that she’s getting on my nerves. I really do. I think she should let Jason be the person she married, keep his job and let her run HER business.

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    Jennifer
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 4:40 pm

    Lol! I love it when people complain and complain about how they can’t watch the show anymore but bother to read pages and pages of recaps. Either her life interests you or doesn’t.

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    ohralphie
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 5:47 pm

    Or the recapper is incredibly funny…….

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    thiajok
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 6:13 pm

    Bingo, Ohralphie! Also, this, Jennifer: we can keep up with these shows but not actually boost the ratings of the shows. See? Clever, eh?

    It’s my personal mission to have Miss Andy fired in 2 years time by not watching his Bravo shows anymore. But hell yeah, I still want to talk about the crazy skanks and bitches. I want to talk about Charlie Sheen, too, I just don’t want to buy a ticket to his tour or go hang out at Sober House (or whatever it is he calls the place).

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    lindaw205
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 6:51 pm

    I don’t watch the shows anymore, either, but I do think the recappers here are very good. Which is why I read the recaps. Personally, I think that says a lot about the quality of writing on this site. Or maybe I just love lowbrow, politically incorrect humor. Whatever, works for me.

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    Betsy
    Posted March 24, 2011 at 2:13 pm

    We love Bethenny!!! http://www.youtube.com/user/dangersaucetv

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    yvette
    Posted April 19, 2011 at 9:44 am

    I believe that Gina is getting paid by Bravo! shes brings entertainment to the show. As seen on NYHW Bethenny has next to none friends so not a lot of material. The Dr. Amador scenes are a joke! Mother issues are getting real old…..my advice is take the money and run!